Be easy
Whilst playing hard to get looks suave and elegant, research says
avoid it. Instead you should try to act available on a date. Firstly,
because it’s clear you both fancy each other, otherwise why would you
have agreed to go on a date? Secondly, playing hard to get doesn’t
actually work. It is thought that we find people attractive when they
are hard for everyone else to get, but love the fact that they are easy
for us to have. Therefore on your date, try to say things like “I’ve
been single for a while. It’s not that I haven’t had any offers, I just
really liked you”. Or if someone asks you to dance or offers to buy you a
drink, politely say no and give all your attention to your date. Make
them aware that you’re a catch, but remind them that they are the one
who has caught you.
Talk about yourself
The conversation aspect of a date is scary. The thought of awkward
pauses and ugly silences is enough to make anyone’s stomach churn like a
washing machine. Don’t run off to a nunnery yet though guys and girls.
An easy conversation to have is one that focuses on you. Talk about your
past, where you grew up or where you studied. Discussing your
background will not only point to values that are important to you, it
will also indicate to your date the potential you have to be a long-term
partner. Researchers found that the most stable relationships were
built by people who had similar backgrounds and similar attitudes. Avoid
talking about yourself too much though, this is one of the biggest
dating no-no’s. Instead, once you’ve talked about your hometown, ask
them where they first lived, or their terrible teenage fashion.
Dress to impress
Admittedly what you look like is important, but really it’s not what
you wear that counts, but how you wear it. When we decide who we fancy,
body language and tone of voice are key players. So don’t fret about how
you look. The key to a good outfit is one that improves your body
language. Make sure the clothes you choose fit, are comfortable and
practical. There are a few little tricks you can use that may help your
dating success too though. Firstly, ladies if you want a second date
leave your neck and your wrists bare. Guys, choose to wear fabrics like
wool or silk. These soft fabrics will get your girl snuggling into you,
and when she does, the soft fabric causes her brain to release oxytocin –
the bonding hormone. Finally guys and girls, avoid wearing perfume.
Smell is intrinsic to dating and they need a whiff of your natural
scent.
Show them that you like them
We all know body language is hugely important when dating, so use it
to show your date you like them. Not only will this make them feel
great, you’ll be able to judge quickly if they like you back. Women have
52 signals that tell men they’re keen, whilst guys have just 10.
Ladies if you want to give him a clear message, tilt your neck to the
side, lock eyes with him and touch his forearm. Or if you’re feeling
really brave, touch his knee. Although cheesy, you can also subtly lick
your lips. For the guys, pay attention to how you look. Checking your
shirt is straight and your jacket neat may sound odd, but preening
yourself is a clear indicator that you care about the girl you’re with.
Also whilst you’re listening to your date, slightly raise your eyebrows,
it shows you’re really interested in what she is talking about.
Surprise them
You’ve been wined, you’ve been dined and now it may be time for a
cheeky smooch. The first kiss is a deal maker or breaker for most so
getting it right is important. Remember to vary your speed. Start off
slowly, and then build pace before easing off again. This will keep them
hooked and wanting more. If you feel the heat is dying, pop in a new
move. Take the tip of your tongue and circle the tip of theirs,
massaging it slightly. Do this slowly. Our lips, mouths and tongues are
highly sensitive so make the most of the kiss and try new things.
They’ll think you’re a kissing guru. Plus their minds will soon be
turning to what you’ll be like under-the-covers. If you don’t think the
kiss is coming, why not go for a cocktail? Choose a lime based drink for
you and your date. Lime increases people’s testosterone levels, which
in turn boosts the sex drive.
When u have a hard time,just laugh.( >.^)
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